love.

Self-love is misguided love that has rebelled against its source, love that does not need the help of others and thus is condemned to be unfruitful, love that is basically enmity toward God and one's neighbor because they could only disturb the immediate circle of myself. Both types of love actually have the same power, the same passion, the same exclusivity. The only thing that sets them apart is the tremendously different goal they each have - in one case, I myself, in the other, God and my neighbor.

- "The Unbelieving Way of Love," Testament to Freedom, 245-246

Dietrich Bonhoeffer